Caspian....
I am sorry. Life is a bitch sometimes.
But you have that good dog Ben to cheer you up! And all of us on this forum.
There is something good in store for you, buddy.
keep that chin up, boy!
Frank
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Going through a painful Divorce
by caspian injust waiting for the final "decree absolute" to come through in the next 3 weeks or so.. but man why is it so hard, the final break.
i really need this to be over so i can finally get on with the rest of my life.. .
cas..feeling a little sorry for himself today.. feel free to offer any support or advice.
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Has Being A Jehovah's Witness Scarred You For Life???
by minimus inwill the pain and memories ever go away??
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franklin J
Yes, in some ways I do feel scarred for life. But just like having a skillful plastic surgeon; the way we heal over the years will determine if others can or do notice the scars. Getting on with our lives and "assimilating" in the real world is not always so easy.
It is who we are. It is incorporated into the experience that identifies each of us. Making it work for us in a positive way can sometimes be a challenge. But making new friends and having new experiences certainly helps. I do believe our lives are what we ultimately make of them.
still working at it
Frank
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Do you sometimes wish you could believe?
by Xander inidle thought for the moment.
i consider myself pagan - mostly because of the earth-friendly orientation of the 'religion'.
i tend to feel some forces guide us, but not in a christian way - to no real purpose or divine goal.
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franklin J
Xander,
I agree with your observations; there are things out there of which there is no explanation; scientific or otherwise. Perhaps in time, humanity will "crack the code" on many things, and science will be able to illuminate that which is still a mystery. I have no doubt that the human race, if given the time and determination, will achieve more great things in terms of discovery. Our culture has illustrated that.
Also, based on history, humanity does seem to have a need to "worship" something greater, and perhaps our current culture, with the Age of reason and the technologies of the 20th and 21 centuries as a base, will see humanity move beyond the "worship" stage into more understanding with nature and the life cycle of the planet.
....I suppose I just accept that I have no answers...
Frank
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Do you sometimes wish you could believe?
by Xander inidle thought for the moment.
i consider myself pagan - mostly because of the earth-friendly orientation of the 'religion'.
i tend to feel some forces guide us, but not in a christian way - to no real purpose or divine goal.
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franklin J
Xander,
I know how you feel. It is difficult to put into words, but as a JW, I had a certain sense of security in that I had ( or certainly BELIEVED that I had) all the answers. I no longer live with that perception. The realization that it was a big lie was a stunning blow. After 20 years, the uncertainty of life has become A PART of my life and I suppose I live with that everyday, we all do.
I often ask myself if I was better off as a JW, living with all those untruths, maybe more secure, and I always come back to the same answer--NO. Once the bubble is burst, there is no going back, only forward. I suppose the truths that I live with now is that my life will be what I ( not someone else or some other superior Being) will make of it. Call it positive thinking, call it determination, but I will not allow those old teachings of " we have Jehovahs backing and protection" to haunt me any longer. We live in a free country; we all have a mind to think and reason with.
I have to admit to myself that I do not have all the answers, and many things are beyond my control, and understanding. Some things I may never know....but that is OK for me, I can live with that.
Frank
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Since You've Stopped Going To Meetings, What's Your General Outlook?
by minimus in.....in life?
do you still have hope?
are you truly much happier?
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franklin J
As a famous deceased Politician said:
" FREE AT LAST; FREE AT LAST---THANK GOD WE ARE FREE AT LAST"
...thunderous applause....thank you Dr. King
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Another "sign of the times", I'm sure...
by Phantom Stranger inreport: 11 die after grasshoppers swarm in sudan
khartoum (reuters) - eleven people died and thousands were taken to hospital with breathing difficulties after a swarm of grasshoppers invaded a town in central sudan, the government-owned al-anbaa newspaper reported on saturday.
the paper cited health authorities in wad medani, capital of the central al-jezira state, as saying an epidemic of what they considered to be asthma had afflicted 1,685 people since october 22, all of whom had since been cured.
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franklin J
Is the " persecution" starting too?
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Are you a "party person"?
by logansrun ini went to a party last night.
as i stood there enjoying the gratifying numbness of a bourban, i couldn't help but feel a vast disconnect between myself and the scene at hand: ridiculously loud music with the bass at three times it's normal level, sweaty bodies smoking with abandon the filthy weeds between their fingers, people coming in the door shouting a barbaric "what up!
" someone's on the porch getting sick.
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franklin J
Logan,
Is it possible that you were at the wrong party?
Frank
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Why I LOVE my FREEDOM #567!
by DebraDoll inbecause i can go to an awesome halloween dance hosted at a huge local cave with my big daddy demon-pimp as his ape bitch and have the time of my life!
and.....he lets me stick stuff in his ear!
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...just love that Ape Bitch.....LOL...I just have to get me one of those!!!
Hope you had fun!
Frank
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Your opinion of...
by MrMoe inmen or women who cheat on thier spouses, not just once, but repeatedly, with various people.
also, do you find those actions mature, or... immature?.
curious.
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franklin J
Mr. Moe,
I thought I agreed with you, but as I grew older, this issue was no longer black and white. And it is a sensitive, volatile topic with some people. After watching my parents "Ozzie and Harriet" marriage through my life, and it was a normal, working marriage ( the operative word here is that it worked) and seeing my parents grow old, I was stunned when my mother took a lover when she was in her mid 60s. My dad ( who was formerly an Elder) took a mistress ( very discreetly) when he was 79.( All this came after the Jehovahs Witness years of our lives) Yet their marriage continued for 60 years until my dad passed on last spring. Both of them knew what the other was up to and decided to handle it in their own way. They did love each other .
I have been married for 17 years, successfully, and my wife and I did not know whether to be amused or stunned at my parents action. The fact is that their marriage worked and lasted 60 years! Who am I to criticize them or their actions ( obviously it is their business).
just my .2 cents
Frank
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Everlasting life on a Paradise earth..myth or reality?
by shotgun ineverlasting life on a paradise earth.
this hope permeates the very being of every jw.
does it mention everlasting life on a paradise earth?
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franklin J
Of all the #$%&^!@ I was taught as a child, what still offends me the most---was not all the xmas and birthday parties and fun I missed out on--it was that 1(one) BIG LIE. Having been raised as a JW, I was taught from as long as I can remember, that I was part of the generation that would not experience death, yes, I was going to survive armageddon and be one of the pioneers ( a pioneer not only in this old system) of the New Order here on earth!!
I believed this until I left in my early 20s. In retrospect it is just ridiculus. What is more disturbing to me is that I believed it!
Well, at any rate, I had great fun making up for all the "lost time" ( and I don't mean preaching door to door).
Frank